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"Recent
work on the urban gay male social history illustrates the imbrication of
social relations with sexuality. Before the advent of AIDS, men undertook
enormous risks to have anal sex [Chauncey: Gay New York, 1994].
Men have been willing to face the scorn of families, the loss of employment
opportunities, and the threat of street violence for sex with other men"
(Rofes,
1996: 166). [Only "anal sex"? Or was it mostly "oral sex?"]
[Frank
Ruggero: My seed is in you] "There are times when I want cum so badly
that I fantasize going to a straight man who is uninfected or a gay man
who is uninfected and asking him for his cum... I have fantasies of getting
cum from a 16-year-old kid who has never had sex. I hate to make it sound
like I an addicted to the substance" (Johnston,
1995: 212).
"Don't
swallow semen (though you deeply want that man's essence inside you). Don't
let him shoot up your bum (even as you're moaning inside, 'Come in me,
come in me!')" [Bebout,
1999].
[James
Douglas] "Just about every gay male friend has told me that they have had
at least one episode of unsafe oral sex within the last year. These are
guys who know a lot about HIV. If that is so, then in any group of gay
men, a lot have been having unsafe sex within the last year, but very few
are willing to talk" (Johnston,
1995: 266).
[Phone
Sex:] "Something in the words, in his description of 'needing sperm' and
'needing to know you're in me without anything between us,' is highly charged
for both of us... I have talked to other men through phone sex lines who
have also eroticized unprotected anal sex... I am speaking about men who
find it exiting to consciously not use protection, and to articulate, often
repeatedly, that condoms are not going to be used and that sperm is going
to enter the anal tract... The focus of my interest is on men who may be
fucking and getting fucked and their erotic experience is heightened by
a conscious and articulated refusal to use condoms" (Rofes,
1996: 169- 70].
"'You
don't think about it too much when you are the passive one. Most guys I'm
together with are older than me. They are usually in charge'" "...He takes
no initiative and steers the situation as little as possible. This passivity
towards sexuality is widespread among gay men on their way out" (Prieur,
1990: 112).
"The
Language of Love: Other reasons for experiencing difficulty in making changes
can lie in the emotional meaning that certain sexual acts have... 'When
he sucks, he insists that his partner come in his mouth: 'If you don't
swallow it, you haven't given him anything'" (Prieur,
1990: 113).
[Abstract]
"...safer sex is often experienced as emotionally colder, as expressions
of distrust, and as a reminder of death. To receive the semen is traditionally
valued as a commitment to the partner. Sexual acts compose a language of
love and affection, and the protective measures destroy this language"
(Prieur,
1990: 109). ["Traditionally"? How long has this "commitment to partner"
association existed? What about "public sex"? What about all the "sex on
the side without commitment"? Etc..]
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