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Do Gay Males Want the Truth to be Known? |
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de Luze, Hubert (1990). Regards ethnométhodologiques sur le mensonge dans le village des dragueurs homosexuels parisiens du 15-11-1989 au 15-4-1990. Université de Paris, Diplôme D'Etude Supérieures Spécialisées.
Most
gay and bisexual males lie in one or more ways when meeting each other
with a "sex" (maybe "love") objective in mind: "The majority of homosexual
males I have met would rather not know the truth (in spite of their professed
desire to know the truth)... The very frequent use of lying by cruising
homosexual males sometimes causes problems. For example, after sexual pleasure
is experienced a love (passion) response may result. Is a relationship
possible? Based on what? Being blind? In fact, when we are relating with
an entrenched liar, there are no rational ways to detect where the lie
end and where truth begins (Conclusion - Translated by author). One of
the ways gay males lie, of the many ways listed in four major categories
and 34 subcategories, is via in their appearance, and "muscles" headed
the list of eleven ways gay males lie physically.
Seal et al. (2000). HIV prevention with young men who have sex with men: what young men themselves say is needed. AIDS Care, 12(1), 5-26.
YMSM's
attempt to conform to a free-love lifestyle often conflicted with their
need for emotional attachment and support. Many younger men expressed difficulty
in finding emotional intimacy within the gay community (p. 9)
{On
"gay couples who could serve as gay role models"}. There is no such thing
as a gay role model. I don't know any couple that doesn't have an open
relationship, that aren't sluts. So everyone follows the stereotype: 'There
is no such thing as a relationship. We can't get married.' (p. 10)
Low
self-esteem and self-worth, a lack of self-care and self-love, hopelessness
and depression and teen suicide factors were believed to underlie unsafe
sexual behavior: (p. 10)
Several
respondents reported that more and more YMSM found sexual excitement in
the 'Fuck of Death', that is, conscious unprotected receptive anal sex
with a known HIV-positive partner or 'bug giver'. (p. 11)
This
man was beautiful. After the fourth time we had sex in 14 hours, we were
laying and he said he had something to tell me. I was just thinking please
don't tell me he's going to say that he was HIV or something. And he just
kind of turned to me and said I should have told you earlier, but I'm positive.
(p. 11)
Many
respondents noted that bars, raves and house parties were central to the
social fabric of the gay community. For many young men, their emerging
identity as a gay man was associated with their ability to enter gay bars.
Often, this happened before the men reached a legal drinking age. A variety
of strategies were available to under-age YMSM who desired access to gay
bars...(p. 12)
It's
[the gay community] a very pressuring community. A lot of peer pressure
when it comes to being gay or straight. For some strange reason bisexuality
isn't really considered sexuality. (p. 13)
A
few participants reported rape experiences: ...Most older men want fresh
meat. They want someone who is new and someone that people haven't dealt
with. (p. 14)
So
many organizations address the needs of White youth, but Black youth tend
to fall through the cracks. (p. 17)
More
information from the Seal et al. (2000) study: Web
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