Tyler Clementi (2010): - Rutgers Suicide (2010): When Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi jumped to his death last week from the George Washington Bridge, he may have been reacting to a constellation of factors related to sexuality, public bullying and humiliation that put adolescents and young adults at a particularly high risk for suicide, mental health experts said. - Ellen DeGeneres 'Devastated' over Rutgers Student Suicide (2010): Noting the three other deaths that have been reported with gay teens this month, DeGeneres says, "Something must be done." - An Important Message - From Ellen DeGeneres (Gay Suicide, Video).
Seth Walsh (2010): - Seth Walsh, a 13-year-old boy from Tehachapi, California, has committed suicide after being bullied by classmates over his sexual orientation (2010). - The Bullying of Seth Walsh: Requiem for a Small-Town Boy (2010). - Seth Walsh, California Teen Who Endured Gay Taunts, Commits Suicide (2010).
Asher Brown (2010): - Asher Brown Suicide: Parents Say Gay 8th Grader Was Bullied to Death While School Did Nothing (2010). - Gay Texas 13-Year-Old Asher Brown Shoots Himself In The Head After Horrific School Torment (2010).
Billy Lucas (2010): - Teen Boy Commits Suicide in Greensburg, Indiana After School Bullying (2010): Billy Lucas, 15, hung himself in the family’s barn in Greensburg, Indiana Thursday, Sept. 2, according to the local Fox News station. Apparently students at Greensburg High School bullied him for being gay, though he had not come out. Billy’s mother found her son. “People would call him ‘fag’ and stuff like that, just make fun of him because he’s different basically,” student Dillen Swango told Fox. “They said stuff like ‘you’re like a piece of crap’and ‘you don’t deserve to live.’ Different things like that. Talked about how he was gay or whatever.”Plus others who survived a suicide attempt they really believed would kill them. Many remain unnamed and they are not all Caucasian:
Alex Hoa's poem is related to suicide but it sometimes disappears from cyberworld. Alex Hoa "knew he was gay at 6 years old, said it was easier for him to come out to the gay community than it was to tell other Vietnamese. Eight years ago, when he did tell his mother, it took another year before Hoa told her he sometimes dressed as a woman. Though he has found acceptance in the Vietnamese gay community here, it is much harder for those in Vietnam. Gay Vietnamese men lead double lives - a wife and kids, and a boyfriend on the side, Hoa said. (Viet students probe cultural gap N/A by Binh Ha Hong, The Orange County Register , May 7, 2000) - Laguna Beach Beating Opens Closed Asian Door: "Homosexuality: A Growing Orange County Group is Trying to Overcome the Gay Taboo in Vietnamese-American Families... Pham, who is not gay, said he started the group after his gay brother, a Catholic who could not accept his sexuality, committed suicide at age 28, and after his Vietnamese girlfriend came out as lesbian."
From Sri Lanka (1995) N/A: "Companions will stage a national conference next March entitled "Emerging gay identities in Sri Lanka" with hopes of formulating a national gay agenda.'Often Sri Lankan homosexuals have committed suicide because they had no support from their families, from their community and from the state,' de Rose said. 'We want to change that attitude.'"
A Love Story by Sunil: "I met R. in 1972, when I joined the medical college. I don't know how I found myself spending lot of time with him... That night, we didn't talk. The next day, I had separated our beds in opposite corners of the room. And I didn't want to talk to him any more... In June 1980, we met on my birthday bash. He had brought me a book as a gift. At the end I accompanied him to the bus stop, asking him about the plans for his birhtday which was going to be after a couple of days, but he said that he hadn't decided anything. On the evening of his birthday, I called him at the hospital. A nurse told me that in the night before, he had committed suicide. He had injected some drugs in an intra-venous drip bottle and fixed it to his arm. And he had left a letter for me..."
A commentary on GLB suicides in North American Asian Communities: They know that I'm here at UCSB, doing my Ph.D. in sociology N/A... I have heard so many stories of Asian American gays, lesbians and bisexuals who feel left out of Asian American communities, that they become ashamed of being Asian American, or that they commit suicide because they don't know of any other Asian American gays, lesbians or bisexuals.
Life and Death in Queer Korea: "I consider myself lucky, though. Between 1997 and 1999, three of my gay friends in South Korea committed suicide. In May 1998, Oh disclosed his homosexuality to his family. They immediately rejected him and expelled him from their home. After living and suffering on the streets for months, and at one point sleeping in an office, Oh killed himself. The other two went to Seoul National University, which is South Korea's Harvard or Yale. One was in Law School; the other was a graduate student in biology. Their success in society was "guaranteed." However, when they came to the age of marriage, they both faced a brutal dilemma. Neither wanted to marry. But they also didn't want to disown their families and disappoint their parents. So, they chose to kill themselves. One in 1997, the other in 1999. No funerals were held for these three young men: their families considered them "bad" sons..."
Boy, 10, hangs himself after telling his mother: 'I want to be a girl'.
Mormon GLBT Suicide Memorial
Suicide Note of a Gay Teen: "I have been punched and spit on and called faggot, queer, loser, pussy, fag boy..."Michaelson MT (2008). Inclusion and social justice for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender members of the learning community in Queensland state schools.Australian Journal of Guidance and Counselling, ,18(1): 76-83. Abstract: "Although schools are meant to be safe learning environments for all children, some children are not afforded equal access to the protection of their safety and security... Despite increasingly positive shifts in Western societal feelings about homosexuality, educators continue to fail to implement inclusive practices and social justice for children who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (GLBT).
From the 1992 book, The Enigma of Suicide (Simon & Schuster - Touchstone) by George Howe Colt, only four pages (pp. 257-61) out of 496 pages were devoted to "homosexuality" issues, including AIDS-related suicides. Yet, the two male cases of adolescent suicides reported on in detail in the first chapter, Adolescent Suicide, have "homosexuality" indicators. The same applies for the only adolescent female case presented in detail, although it is in the "suicide attempt" category.
Justin was very intelligent and preferred interacting with adults. He did not relate well with peers - generally being different from others or making sure he was.
"He was very male-oriented," says Giles [his father]. "He did not seem to have much an interest in girls. I was little concerned about that." Meaning that a son with possible homosexual desires would have probably not told his parents about this aspect of himself.This homophobic "father" attitude would certainly cause a [gay] adolescent boy to become distant from his father, as it was the case. Increasing the alienation would be the potentially deadly - but thought-to-be-helpful - demeanor of the father:
As Justin grew older, Giles felt frustrated at not being closer to his son. "I would have liked to have more conversations with him about what was going on in his life." he says. "I remember going through a lot of turmoil in my own adolescence and not having anyone I could sit down and talk to. I never had heart-to-heart talks with my father, and I was looking forward to having them with my son. I was hoping that as he became interested in girls, we could talk about that. I had ideas that I wanted to share with him about what to say and what to do...."The "homosexuality" information was more blatant in Brian's case, the second adolescent suicide presented:
Unfortunately, fathers usually do not recognize just how lethal such expectations are for [gay] sons, and it is exceptionally cruel to be essentially saying: 'I'll only be able to get closer to you if-and-only-if you become interested in girls.'
Justin may also have had a "save-the world" problem given that he "would take the world's problems to heart." He had a history of having "vigorous discussions [with his teachers] about ecology, nuclear disarmament, and the state of the world."
There was another reason why having a girlfriend was especially important to Brian. At about this time he began to talk to his mother about his fears that he might be gay.The female who attempted suicide, Dana, became alcoholic during adolescence and was interviewed at college where "her biggest problem... was [still] loneliness." During adolescence, "although it seemed everyone around her had a boyfriend, Dana had never had one. Occasionally a friend would include her in a double date, but Dana wasn't much interested. "I thought I must be a lesbian 'cause I didn't like guys. I didn't like girls either, though. I thought maybe I was asexual." She tried not to think about it. "I just hoped it would all go away, that I'd grow up and everything would be fine."
Although Casey reckons he "always knew" he was gay, he became one of the kids who was "forced into doing it". After moving to Sydney, Casey was drawn into a string of abusive "relationships".From Australia: The Wakeup Call N/A - Robert was sexually abused as a boy, expelled from his adopted Christian family when hsi homosexual orientation was discovered at age 14, survived via street prostitution in Brisbane, contracted HIV, developed AIDS, and killed himself in a way that may be deemed "an accident" by the investigating authorities. Sometimes a friend, such as Martin Worterding, may know that it was not an accident and he remains emotionally troubled because he is part of a society not deemed "innocent" with resepct to such ultimately fatal outcomes.
Because of his low self-esteem borne of the silence, Casey says he was easy pickings for deeply-closeted homosexual "sick tickets" who found more pleasure in hearing screams for mercy as they held knives to the throats of other parents' sons than in real and open love.
Starved of real love and left with little hope, Casey, like many young gays, turned to chemical "friends" to fill the void. His only human friends became the other youngsters traded by the "sick tickets".
"Of the thirteen of us, I'm one of only three that's still alive today," Casey says. "Most of my friends blew their heads off, some of them OD'd and some of them have died from AIDS. They were all bright kids with talents and promising futures."
The gay boys who fall in love with men - or one man in particular - and are rejected by the man who may have deemed such a relationship to be inappropriate, are at risk for suicide. This happened to Antonio Izquierdo who, having fallen in love with a man from the age of 8 to 13 and having his love rejected, and after having reported his problems to a school counselor who advised him to begin dating girls, "went to the cliffs near my high school and just stood at the edge for hours crying like a child. I had been thinking of killing myself for a long time, I even attempted it." A part of the gay-identidied male world has a history of not only having fallen in love with men as adolescents, and sometimes as children, but a number of studies have been published on various attributes of such relationships (e.g. Positively Experienced Man/Boy Sex: The Discourse of Seduction and the Social Construction of Masculinity by Terry Leahy. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Sociology, Vol 28(1), 1992. (Interview with males who had sex with men when they were between the age of 8 to 16 years.) Must scroll abstract).
There are gay & lesbian therapists in Calgary - and elsewhere - who would definitely decree that Antonio's love for a man is totally "inappropriate," and they would likely inflicting harmful therapy on similar boys. If suicide problems result (or continue), these therapists may then become even more unethical and absolve themselves from having been causal in the suicide attempt(s) - maybe even the boy's death - by attributing such outcomes to society's homophobia. A number of such GLB therapists in Calgary have not only been in this "murdering" category, but they have also maliciously sought to harm anyone daring to address this REALITY and thereby exposing what they are actually doing. Adolescents boys do get into relationships with men and they may experience a number of problems; but, when the subject is made taboo, they will not feel they can consult anyone about their problems which, in the final analysis, only benefits their abusers when such situations exist. In other words, gay and lesbian community leaders have generally increasingly become the best friends of the men who do abuse boys.
Some boys who have committed suicide may have manifested a desperate need to "connect" with a man - and they may have attempted to do so - fully knowing - possibly via the internet - that no one would approve - including "politically correct" gay community representatives. One boy in A memorial to those We've Lost N/A was in this category, and his parents may essentially be working to maintain or worsen the social situation - under the belief of doing good - meaning that similar boys will continue to attempt and possibly commit suicide. A number of GLB community leaders are also working so that these potentially life-saving connnections are not made available to these boys. Over the years, I have met many gay males reporting that, as adolescents, they were not peer-identified but adult-identified and thus sought adult to relate with. In the book, The Enigma of Suicide (quoted above), Justin was noted to be in this category.
How common is it that gay-identified boys are attracted to older males? From the report, "Dangerous Inhibitions: How America is letting AIDS become an epidemic of the young N/A, (PDF Download) (PDF Download) "the "older partners" section begins with: "Many young people find older partners attractive. All the young men and women participating in one series of PMI focus groups said that they prefer their sexual partners to be at least five years older than them." (Emphasis mine.) Ignoring this fact, whether it be with respect to risks for contrating HIV or suicide problems, will produce remarkably similar lethal outcome. Therefore, ALL GLBT community leaders who "choose" to suppress or ignore this well known reality (often being in the double-their-age or more category) - for 'political' reason - because they want greater acceptance from the heterosexual community - essentially become killers fo their own kind, thereby maybe reflecting some description of psychopathologies known as personality disorders.
A boy - Philip Guichard (2000) - describes his adolescence and the adolescence of other gay-identified boys which includes many relationships with older men as a result of venturing into gay communities: - The Queer Issue: "Lay Off Me! I'm a Boy, Not Your Toy, and I Want To Be With Another Boy. I Hate Older Men." Some of the situations described may well be implicated in suicide attempts and even suicides. Rarely, however, is this aspect of gay communities studied, including the high risk that these boys may contract HIV. A recent example is the Seal et. al. (2000) study which reveals that GB male youth problems are multidimensional in nature and helping these youth will require a multidimensional approach. Silence is also being broken about the gay / bisexual youth risk for being sexually abused / coerced and raped in gay communities. See the Tremblay and Ramsay (2000) summary of the situation and the report on the Mutchler (2000) study. By 2002, a web page on this subject was constructed.
As a rule, "The Homosexuality Factor" is ignored by mental health professionals specializing in the more serious mental disorder. The research work is almost nil in this respect as repeated searches of the literature has revealed. No one yet seems to be asking: "Being schizophrenic is a serious problem, but what are the consequences of being schizophrenic and homosexual in a highly homophobic societies which has a history of producing highly abusive and homo-harming mental health professionals? What are the consequences if the schizophrenic, bipolar, or schizoaffective individual is highly homophobic?"
Researchers of the high suicide in various psychiatric populations have generally ignored "The Homosexuality Factor" in suicides of psychiatric patients. When the element was investigated, however, it was significantly implicated in suicide problems, including suicides. See: Motto et al. (1985), Martin et al. (1985), and Pretorius (1992).
Suicide investigations reporting telltale information indicating "repressed homosexuality" are almost non-existent, except for a study of the three schizophrenic males who had committed suicide in an Illinois hospital: Salama AE, and Sizemore DM (1982). Observations on suicide among hospitalized schizophrenic patients. Hospital & Community Psychiatry, 33(11), 940-41. In the abstract available via the American Psychological Association's psychINFO Database, the following summary is given: "They were diagnosed as having a schizoaffective illness, and they were unemployed, unhappily dependent on an overprotective family, sexually maladjusted, and full of fears of homosexuality." The "repressed homosexuality" implication of these fears - or intense homophobia - is rendered in the "Adams.htm" web page. These suicide victims must therefore not be forgotten, but mainstream suicidologists investigating the high suicide rate in psychiatric patients have generally manifested amnesia when it comes to the "homo" issues which should be investigated.
Individuals with a paranoid schizophrenic diagnosis (as in being "full of fears" of something) have a high likelihood of manifesting a save-the-world attribute which will deemed to be "pathological grandiosity" by psychiatrists. The professional help these individuals have been receiving has likely been causal in their exceptionally high suicide rates.
Young adolescent males who are may be repressing or negating their homosexual desires - but are nonetheless becoming sexually involved with desired older males (as was the case for Casey and other [gay] street youth who have ventured into prostitution as reported by Boyer, 1989) - have been at high risk for suicide attempts (Remafedi et al., 1991), and a part of the problem has been the professional help made available to these boys. As reported, Casey was "deeply critical of the programs he tried to access during his nine year suicidal stage, arguing many of the 'service providers' were either ignorant or hostile." If, however, such a boy was referred to psychiatrists because he was suspected to be schizophrenic or maybe schizoaffective - and he was also manifesting a save-the-world attribute - the probability of surviving the professional help offered or inflicted on them may be nil. These victims must be remembered, but it is also extremely important to remember the professionals who exacerbated their feelings of hopelessness and probably drove them to their deaths - if the worsening youth suicide problem is ever to end.
More information on the "Professional Factor" and even the "Gay Community Factor" in exacerbating and/or maintaining GLB youth suicide problems is available in the "problems.htm" web page.
A number of anti-homosexuality Christian churches have been contributors to suicides and attempted suicides of homosexually oriented individuals. A part of the homo-hunting history of the Mormon Church's Brigham Young University (apparently, an ongoing phenomenon) is rendered in the lecture, "Private Pain, Public Purges: A History of Homosexuality at Brigham Young University," delivered by Connell O'Donovan in 1997 at the University of California, Santa Cruz.
In this 1975 article, McQueen reported that five Gay men he had known at BYU had gotten caught in the Purge of '75, were coerced into therapy, expelled from BYU, outed by church officials, and then excommunicated. Rather than face the bigotry of family, friends, church, and state, each one committed suicide. Another man who was caught in that purge remembers that a BYU professor shot and killed himself that year after being entrapped at a local off campus restroom.There has been a long history of male suicide associated with "outing" activities, including those of police forces who have monitored public places (baths, parks, washrooms, truck stops, etc.) where homosexually oriented males have met for sexual encounters. These suicides continue to be a part of gay history, probably in most countries of the world. For example: Two men in Stirling, Scotland, have killed themselves after being caught on video-tape in a police sting operation at a cruisy toilet in Beechwood Park N/A. (Must scroll to locate information.)
Local police and other agencies as well got involved in the purge as it spilled over into 1976. Another male student, after being arrested at a highway reststop (known affectionately as the Blow-n-Go), took a bottle of aspirin to kill himself. He was taken to Utah Valley Hospital where the medical personnel there recognized the suicide attempt and contacted BYU Security immediately. BYU Security, who had a file on him because of his arrest at the rest stop, then outed the man to his bishop and wife.
Suicide of a 37-year-old gay soccer player: "body was found hanging in an East London garage". Homophobia-related problems, a 17-year-old boy, and possible money extortion by boy possibly related to suciide.
To be continued...